I watched a documentary about Valarie Harper and then I cried all night. The story made me sad and happy at the same time. I was in awe of her ability to be positive and enjoy each day, her courage to look death in the face and take charge of her life. So many have healed themselves with this attitude, or at least gone into remission and extended their life. She inspired me to ponder my own thinking. I lost my job; my unemployment insurance ran out, my savings account dwindled. I went into debt.
Yet, I have so much to be thankful for. I keep a journal about what I am grateful for every day: my family, my funny hubby, joy in my grandchildren. Some difficult days it is about when I look at the blue sky, the beautiful trees that surround me and give me peace.
I am still happy. So what is it? Perhaps it is recognition that we have a short time on this earth and we need to make the most of it. Money is not everything. Finding what is important to you and enjoying that, making goals, knowing what you want and going after it.
Victor Frankl said that the reason to live is what keeps people going. In his recount about the Nazi prison camps in the Second World War, he said that those who survived had a reason for living, a dream to go back to, and a vision. Valarie must have some job she thinks she should do before she goes – maybe it is simply to be joyful and enjoy each day.
So if Valarie can do this and others that are facing death can do this, why can’t we all achieve this in our daily lives?
What is happy when the money runs out, or we are feeling down about our life?
What can I tell people to help them hang on? I have been there, I know the depression.
I would say: Remember that we have a short time here on earth. Make the most of it.
I know of three things that help people turn around their lives:
- Remember present is a gift: You cannot change the past and you cannot control the future, stay in the present moment.
- Positive attitude: I do not know Valarie but it appears she brought this attitude with her from a life time of positive thinking.
- Have gratitude to change your attitude: When you think about what gives you joy, even the simplest things like a sunny day, you change your attitude.
What are the other motivators to enjoy your life that you tap into?
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